We all want to be happy in life. We talk about how we want to be happy, but most of us do nothing about it.

Most of us believe in a lie. We believe that we can only be happy when everything in our life is perfect.

We believe happiness is the relationship, job, ring, country home, vacations, beauty products, wardrobe, and weight loss. 

The problem is, these things alone don’t create real and lasting happiness. Therefore, happiness becomes this mysterious thing we want but we don’t know how to get.

Happiness is not circumstantial. This is good news because we don’t have to wait for everything in life to be perfect, nor do we have to have control of everything to feel a certain way.

Knowing this is a game-changer because it means we can be happy in the present moment. And something great happens when we do this: when we feel happy, our outward experience changes in ways we could never imagine.

It’s common to fall into the trap of thinking we’ll be happy only when everything in our lives is exactly the way we want it to be.

And for us to be happy, we must work hard to control these external circumstances to make them “right.” 

But, when we make these things happen, we want them to fill us up, validate us, or make us feel whole and complete.

Even if they do for a while, these changes will not be sustainable. With luck, we eventually realize that external things don’t make us happy long-term. 

If you are at this point, you are ready to make changes to live a sustainably happy life.

Self-love is the starting point of happiness.  If you live from a pure state of self-love, you’ll be able to get sustainable contentment, because your feelings of abundance will lead to beautiful relationships, financial freedom, and purpose-driven work.

Self-love puts you on the fast track of finding true happiness and healing. And your job is to release fearful perceptions and develop a loving outlook on life, which shows your perfection and wholeness. 

You are perfect the way you are. Nothing is wrong with you. These might be things you think in order to convince yourself they are true.

By giving up limiting beliefs, you’ll finally experience happiness. Freedom, and your maximum potential.

Happiness is a choice and the less you choose it, the harder you make your life.

What do you want in life? You want to be happy, right? Most people believe you’re born to happy or not. But happiness is a choice. You can create real and lasting happiness for yourself. 

Every day you make choices, like when choosing what to eat or drink, what clothes to wear, where to work, and whom to love.

Some choices are good, and others are not, but all of them are based on our deep desire to be happy.

Yes, your genetics, personality, and nature play a role in your happiness. And life circumstances and situations also play a role in your short-term happiness like your upbringing, health, and finances. 

This isn't to say you will never feel negative emotions. Of course, you will. Negative emotions also play a part in our lives.

But, the biggest part of being happy long-term is a choice. You can choose to be happy, despite what genetics, situations and circumstances you face.

Your personal happiness depends on the conscious choices you make and the effort you put into living a good life.

HAPPINESS IS A DAILY CHOICE

Happiness isn’t something you chase, nor is it something you get at the end of the journey.

If you're like most people, chances are, you have chased happiness by wanting to achieve certain goals, to be perfect in looks, a job or something else. 

You may have obsessed about something that turned out to be completely wrong for you. 

Chasing these external things may have turned you into a victim who blamed others or the world for your mistakes. This thought process is all wrong, but for many, may seem normal.

There are many happy people around us who are successful. They’re happy because they made a conscious choice to be happy and they make this choice every day.

When life gives them lemons, they choose to make the best of it. They choose to see the good in every situation.  

HAPPINESS LEADS TO SUCCESS

Many people think success fuels happiness, but in fact, the opposite is true. Happiness is the key to success.

When you’re happy, your fee more energetic, confident and optimistic. You actively seek out new opportunities. 

You work harder to meet your goals. Your brain is better able to stay focused and your motivation improves.  

The hidden secret to people who are creative, productive and successful is their ability to focus on being happy.  

HAPPINESS IS PLEASURE AND PURPOSE

For you to be happy, you must first understand what happiness is. Happiness is pleasure and purpose.

Pleasure means feeling positive emotions, such as delight, joy, and surprise, in the present moment. And purpose is about living a life which is worthwhile to you.

When you are happy, you to savor the food you eat, are more mindful in your daily experiences and appreciate all the beautiful things life has to offer.

You count your blessings, are kind to others, and focus on being the best you can be. Every day you are mindful, appreciative and enthusiastic about life.

THERE ISN’T ONE RIGHT WAY TO BE HAPPY

There isn't a set formula one should follow to find real and lasting happiness. There is no secret recipe.

What works for one person may not work for another because finding true happiness is a personal journey. 

To find your own happiness, you need to understand what you truly want from life. You need to stop repeating patterns in your life that do not serve you well.

You must remove things from your life that are keeping you from reaching your goals. Therefore, set formulas don't work.

You are a unique individual; therefore, your journey will be unique …and exciting and fun!

You are responsible for your own happiness.

You oversee your life. While others may be part of your happiness, they are not in control of your happiness. 

Nobody can take control of how you feel unless you allow them to. Don't let them!

Life is full of challenges and obstacles. There will be times when you don't hold the reigns; where events will be out of your control.

But even during the most difficult times, you always have control of your own feelings. You can find joy and light.  

It's true, when you’re going through something painful and overwhelming, the last thing you want to hear is someone telling you happiness is a choice.

But by being able to find that spark, that light, and the one thing you can hold on to, you’ll see the light at the end of the tunnel. 

Following that spark and knowing happiness is possible can make all the difference in the world when life gets hard.